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"Selfless may be Selfish"
In our pursuit of good health, we have to grapple with our
attitude towards self care. Some of us were raised with a message that
told us that we needed to be selfless, and that caring for ourselves was
selfish- others need to come first. Others have no problem putting self first,
(and second), and have little time for investing in anything, or
anyone else.
First off, let me say that we are smart to avoid extremes. We
neither want to be so self absorbed that we become obsessed with food and
exercise, nor do we want to be so detached that we are self abusive or
neglectful. Those that learn the delicate balance of honoring them selves while
still caring about other people and things are healthy indeed! Loving ourselves
first puts us in the best position to love others well.
For you selfless ones, who give it all away, may I say
that eventually your lack of self care will become an issue. For anyone raising
children, caring for aging parents or spouses, or just caught up at work or in
another taxing environment, you MUST take time for you! If you don't put
yourself in the drivers seat, it will catch up with you eventually, and the very
thing you are trying to do will not be possible if you lose your health.
The best thing we can offer those we love is the gift of ourselves. By
maintaining a healthy weight, eating nutritionally, exercising regularly, we
will be healthy enough to give the quality time, love, energy, and interest that
we want to.It is NOT selfless to ignore yourself. It may end up at some
point being selfish, because eventually we may at the very least lose
steam, or more seriously, we may become burnt out, stressed out, bitter,
resentful,angry,sick, depressed, and become TOTALLY empty and unavailable!
It is selfless to be in the Drivers' Seat of your own health, making the wise choices that make you the best you can be, ready to give of yourself from that abundance!
You are worthy of time invested in the pursuit of a good health from every
angle- mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. Balance is the key- learning
to give time to all of our worthy priorities, including ourselves!
For one week, try journaling your days. See where the time is going, and
see if there's a need to create a better balance.
Yes to others, but don't forget YOURSELF-
Are you a Care Giver, or do you know one, who needs a break? We are introducing our first "Caregivers Weekend" from March 26-29. Check our calender for details.
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